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My name is Feyisitan. I'm a Trauma-Informed, Domestic Abuse & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach, Training Consultant and Speaker.

I founded The Nurtured Woman, a private coaching and consulting practice that provides recovery coaching and mentoring support to survivors of narcissistic abuse to transform their lives. As part of my service, I provide Therapeutic Family Court Support to survivors. 

These services are borne out of personal experience of being married to a malignant narcissist, the abuse after escaping and a passion to help others in similar situations.


As it turns out, narcissistic abuse is a global pandemic on it's own that affects many people of all races, age and gender  regardless of religious or political beliefs, and educational or social status.  


My first B.Sc (Hons) degree was in Real Estate Management obtained from the University of Lagos, Nigeria. You will agree with me that that has nothing related to domestic abuse or narcissistic abuse..lol. Growing up, I have always had an interest and passion in helping people to become better versions of themselves. As the popular saying goes, 'experience is the best teacher'. Oh yes, my experience of narcissistic abuse propelled me to the most fulfilling career I could ever ask for. 


I didn't start out as a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach. It wasn't even in the pipeline of careers for me but I knew I was going to use my voice and experience to help others. After I finally escaped from the narcissist in February 2013, with the sheer goal of pursuing a financially rewarding career, I trained, studied and became a qualified Prince2 Practitioner and worked full time in different multinational organisations on business transformation projects during the day while also supporting domestic abuse survivors after working hours. 


These were survivors who reached out to me after reading my story, attendees at a speaking engagement, those who joined my Facebook livestream at the time or those referred by other survivors I had supported. I read several articles on Narcissistic abuse and trauma, listened to survivors stories on YouTube, blogs and Facebook, studied many academic research studies on domestic abuse, perpetrator's behaviour, trauma, mental health and the DSM V. I attended several paid and free webinars and in-person training sessions held within the UK and other countries.


The initial goal of sharing my story publicly on social media was to only impart knowledge by raising awareness with the hope of helping others to break the silence and the cycle of abuse. With time, I realised I was more fulfilled in the support I provided to survivors, most especially the transformation they experienced and their testimonies after engaging with me. Something I did for free but with such passion and dedication. It wasn't until then that I started investing further in myself by enrolling in professional coaching, therapeutic and trauma related training and qualifications to hone my knowledge and skills.


Voila..the integration of first-hand life experience of narcissistic abuse, plus professional technical skills and professional therapeutic training qualifications have enabled me to provide practical, exceptional services to my private and corporate clients. 


In January 2020, I was a guest speaker at a Domestic Abuse Symposium alongside the first and current Domestic Abuse commissioner for England and Wales, Nicole Jacobs and other professionals from other national domestic abuse agencies in the UK, Safelives and Women's Aid. I spoke about the 'The Complexities of Domestic Abuse on Black, Asian & Ethnic Minorities in the UK', I've been invited to speak at different radio programmes, Podcast, church events, private Facebook support groups for narcissistic abuse survivors managed by other advocates.


As part of my consultancy work, I have designed and developed professional training courses including e-learning courses and delivered the same to frontline professionals including NHS staff, the police, military, church leaders, social workers, domestic abuse practitioners, volunteers and professionals in the financial services and other corporate sectors. 

 

From personal experience and experience of working with survivors and other professionals, I understand the many challenges survivors face and how to equip them to overcome those challenges. That is one of the reasons I added professional training to my list of offerings to enable other professional frontline workers and coaches to support their clients effectively. 

Feyisitan

Coach & Founder, The Nurtured Woman

I'm a Mum to four amazing boys - 3 young adults and a 9 nine year old (going on 18..lol). 

I escaped with them when they were all under 10 years old and the youngest was only 8 months old at the time. 


When I'm not supporting survivors, studying or writing new contents for professional training courses, I enjoy listening to music, dancing, dining out with friends, spending time with family, taking nature walks, travelling. But with the current Covid restrictions, stringent guidelines with international travels and the uncertainties that come with it, I've been very much 'humbled' by no international travel plans. Staycation it is.


I have keen interest in real estate and all things 'tech' but definitely not nerdy..lol.


Being a christian, I am continually inspired by the scripture in 2 Corinthians 1:4 which states -''He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others when they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us'' . 

I am also motivated by my client's testimonies and many other survivors who use their voices and experiences to support others.


I want to encourage every survivor not to give up on themselves. It is absolutely possible to break the cycle of abuse regardless of your faith, gender, religious or cultural beliefs.


Whether or not there are visible, physical scars or invisible, emotional scars from the abuse, know this - I Believe You. 


Narcissistic abuse impacts survivors differently but with the right support and intervention, it is possible to Heal, Thrive and Live a Purpose Filled Life afterwards.


You can connect with me on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, LinkdIn (links open in new tabs)


Connect with me on ClubHouse at @Feyisitan. Read some blogposts 


Check out my service offerings on the SERVICES page and use the 'contact' form for related enquiries. 


I look forward to connecting with you.

Professional Training & Qualification

  • Certified Life Coach
  • Master NLP Practitioner
  • Certificate in Counselling Skills 
  • Treating Trauma, Mental Health & The Body
  • Trauma, The Brain & The Body
  • Trauma-Informed Care
  • Certificate in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
  • Motivational Interviewing
  • Mental Health & Wellbeing
  • Positive Psychology Coaching
  • Resilience Practitioner

    Areas of Expertise


    • Coaching & Mentoring
    • Training Design & Development 
    • Training Delivery
    • Workshop Facilitation
    • Domestic Abuse Policy Development
    • Agile Project Management


    • Domestic Abuse Trauma
    • Narcissistic Abuse Trauma
    • Post-Separation Abuse
    • Family Court Support
    • Parenting Skills for Survivors
    • Christianity & Domestic Abuse

    My Approach

    Narcissistic abuse brings about many different complexities. Survivor's experiences might be similar but healing and recovery journeys are rarely the same for everyone due to individual personalities and circumstances. My approach is grounded in a trauma-informed lens with the integration of coaching, mentoring and counselling skills and techniques tailored to meet individual needs.

    Solution Focused


    Support you to move forward, gain clarity and get unstuck from narcissistic abuse trauma. Identify solutions to the current challenges you might be facing or equip you with means to mitigate potential risks or challenges you would likely face. 

    Person Centred


    Focus is on you as the client, respecting your uniqueness, experience and circumstances. Engaging with you with compassion and care through your healing and recovery journey.

    Holistic



    Supporting you as a whole being with the understanding of how the abuse affects different areas including physical, emotional, spiritual, cultural, financial and social life.

    Client's Testimonials


    'Highly Knowlegeable'



    ''I came across Feyi's livestream on Facebook and contacted her. She's highly knowledgeable about the realities of narcissistic abuse. She made me understand the trauma of the experience and supported me through self development''





    'Thank you'



    “Thank you so much, for your kindness, time and efforts in supporting my children and I through these extremely challenging times. I wouldn't have been able to go through the family court without your support”




    'Life saver'



    “Thank you for sharing your wisdom with many people like me. I never thought anyone would ever understand what I was going through. Your support is a life saver to me”



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