Welcome and thank you for visiting The Nurtured Woman's website.

My name is Feyisitan. I'm a Trauma-Informed, Domestic Abuse & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach, Training Consultant and Speaker.

I founded The Nurtured Woman, a private coaching and consulting practice that provides recovery coaching and mentoring support to survivors of narcissistic abuse to transform their lives. As part of my service, I provide Therapeutic Family Court Support to survivors. 

These services are borne out of personal experience of being married to a malignant narcissist, the abuse after escaping and a passion to help others in similar situations.

As it turns out, narcissistic abuse is a global pandemic on it's own that affects many people of all races, age and gender  regardless of religious or political beliefs, and educational or social status.  

My first B.Sc (Hons) degree was in Real Estate Management obtained from the University of Lagos, Nigeria. You will agree with me that that has nothing related to domestic abuse or narcissistic abuse..lol. Growing up, I have always had an interest and passion in helping people to become better versions of themselves. As the popular saying goes, 'experience is the best teacher'. Oh yes, my experience of narcissistic abuse propelled me to the most fulfilling career I could ever ask for. 

I didn't start out as a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach. It wasn't even in the pipeline of careers for me but I knew I was going to use my voice and experience to help others. After I finally escaped from the narcissist in February 2013, with the sheer goal of pursuing a financially rewarding career, I trained, studied and became a qualified Prince2 Practitioner and worked full time in different multinational organisations on digital transformation projects during the day while also supporting domestic abuse survivors after working hours. 

These were survivors who reached out to me after reading my story, attendees at a speaking engagement, those who joined my Facebook livestream at the time or those referred by other survivors I had supported. I read several articles on Narcissistic abuse and trauma, listened to survivors stories on YouTube, blogs and Facebook, studied many academic research reports on domestic abuse, perpetrator's behaviour, trauma, mental health and the DSM V. I attended several paid and free webinars and in-person training sessions held within the UK and other countries.

The initial goal of sharing my story publicly on social media was to only impart knowledge by raising awareness with the hope of helping others to break the silence and the cycle of abuse. With time, I realised I was more fulfilled in the support I provided to survivors, most especially the transformation they experienced and their testimonies after engaging with me. Something I did for free but with such passion and dedication. It wasn't until then that I started investing further in myself by enrolling in professional coaching, therapeutic and trauma related training and qualifications to hone my knowledge and skills.

Voila..the integration of first-hand life experience of narcissistic abuse, plus professional technical skills and professional therapeutic training qualifications have enabled me to provide practical, exceptional services to my private and corporate clients. 

In January 2020, I was a guest speaker at a Domestic Abuse Symposium alongside the first and current Domestic Abuse commissioner for England and Wales, Nicole Jacobs and other professionals from other national domestic abuse agencies in the UK, Safelives and Women's Aid. I spoke about the 'The Complexities of Domestic Abuse on Black, Asian & Ethnic Minorities in the UK', I've been invited to speak at different radio programmes, Podcast, church events, private Facebook support groups for narcissistic abuse survivors managed by other advocates.

As part of my consultancy work, I have designed and developed professional training courses including e-learning courses and delivered the same to frontline professionals including NHS staff, the police, military, church leaders, social workers, domestic abuse practitioners, volunteers and professionals in the financial services and other corporate sectors. 

From personal experience and experience of working with survivors and other professionals, I understand the many challenges survivors face and how to equip them to overcome those challenges. That is one of the reasons I added professional training to my list of offerings to enable other professional frontline workers and coaches to support their clients effectively.